About us

We believe having children is a very personal decision that must be respected. Same as not having children.

Our intention with Instead of Kids is offering a safe space for those who don’t want to have children, cannot have them, are not sure yet if they want to have them or are already parents but don’t buy the conventional way to raise kids.


Monica Zaldivar – Writer

I’ve always known that I didn’t want children. But I never anticipated how much resistance I would face on all fronts whenever the topic came up and I answered honestly about how I felt. I’d like to create debate, understanding and connection with my articles around not having children, not knowing yet or having them but looking for other ways to face parenthood.

Read my reasons to not to want children and let me know your opinion in the comments or contacting us!

I’m here to write, listen and understand.